Maybe you will be proud to have several like-minded friends, deep feelings. But sometimes you may be friends with the growing alienation and confusion and confusion: you and your friends do not have much estrangement and conflict, how will the friendship fade? The reason may come from all sides, but if you pay attention to the following eight kinds of mentality, it will make the friendship has been continuously consolidated.
First, to adapt to the performance, the conversation is careful, do not let a friend's self-esteem hurt
Maybe you and a friend passing very close, no words don't talk, maybe your intellect, appearance. The family, the promise of envy, a friend of a high head, these favorable conditions may make you regardless of the occasion, especially with friends, more cynical, hard-edged, express themselves without restraint. The conversation will often reveal a sense of superiority is obvious, which can feel you are speaking to them, to show himself up and make others hurt, could not help but produce at a distance. So, with friends, to control their emotions, to stay sane, modest, very modest, and put myself in equal status, and pay attention to think
The existence of the other side, take care of each other's psychological endurance.
Two, distinguish each other, abide by the contract, do not let your friends have a Preventive Psychology
Friends often something equally, but if the friends of things, without permission, they arbitrarily get, without love, sometimes without further delay or simply do not have a long time, it will make your friends think you're too presumptuous, resulting to prevent psychological, and may lead to estrangement between you. In fact, in addition to friendship between friends, there is a subtle contractual relationship. As far as the object is concerned, you and your friends can borrow at any time. But you should have a clear understanding of what your friends should do: "the things of friends should be more loving."." Put some items as friends to cherish friendship, pay attention to the reciprocity of the rules, this will make friends always trust you.
Three, pay attention to avoid loose, bar, don't let friends have contempt, aversion to you
Between friends, conversation behavior should be frank, generous, friendly, unpretentious, only in this way, show the natural color. But if too loose, not self, not to stick at trifles, it makes people feel you are rude and vulgar. Maybe you will get along with the rational and general self about, but with friends did, or the backseat driver, or make irresponsible remarks, or wanton friends as boundless as the sea and sky, broken words, mocks, or listening to friends talk and look around, absent-minded. Perhaps this is your natural expression, but a long time, friends will feel that you have a decent, not self-cultivation, you have a sense of disgust and contempt, you will change the impression of the original. So, should keep the natural and do not lose weight in front of friends, keep warm and polite, do have a sense of propriety, restraint, in order to win friends forever friendship.
Four, keep your promise, adherence to agreed, don't let friends feel that you can't trust
You may not so valued some agreed between friends, for friends for her to change after refreshing. Maybe you really have something to delay a appointment party or did not complete the friend entrusted thing, maybe you will later casually explain one or two, believe that friends can understand each other, trifle not worth mentioning. But because of you and friends will go down on burning with impatience. Although they will not face to face accusations, but will think you are playing with friends, is in lack of trust is find amusement when the occasion arises, the people. So, for a friend or about the care, must be careful, to keep, to as good as gold, cut at the letter without.
Five, ask friends to help, do not insist, do not let your friends think you too unreasonable, overbearing
When you need to ask for help, the preferred object is of course can be friends, you do not notice, or to temporary demands, in spite of his desire, he forcibly go with you to participate in certain activities, this will make your friends feel in a dilemma. He would have been more embarrassed if there had been any inconvenience to change. To ask you, if it promised to disrupt their plans, if not go in and refuse to face. Maybe he is happy on the surface, but the heart is a bit unhappy, think you are too overbearing, unreasonable. So, when asked for a friend, you must be informed in advance, to discuss the tone of speech, as far as possible in the absence of friends or willing to make a request under the premise.
Six, on different occasions, self-controlled, don't let friends get tired of you
When you go to a friend's home, if friends are reading, or are receiving the other guests, or just lovers meet, or are preparing to go out, if you count on each other's friends, regardless of the occasion, do not look at the friend's face, for quite a while, a minor, whether they have been on pins and needles, very impatient, so, friends will think you are not educated, understand, after trying to avoid be beneath the human character, you fear you bother his private life. So, in a case like this, you have to react quickly, a few pleasantries on the message left, you know, friends cherish time and respect the private life of friends like friendship as precious treasure.
Seven, pay attention to language, play well, don't let friends suddenly feel abominable